Wednesday, November 19, 2008

The Beginning of the Affair

Many of my friends have had ping pong arguments about who to side with in the Brad-Jen-Angie old, old, old love triangle. A few days ago, Jennifer Aniston made some comments about the whole affair in a Vogue article and this caused talks about the three involved to resume. Now, I've been thinking deeply about why I have the opinions that I have, why they are similar to others, but more importantly whey they are different from others. Here's what I've come up with:

Yes, Brad Pitt definitely had a big role in the whole mess. He is definitely not blameless. My admiration of Mr. Pitt went from 100% to roughly 50% after the whole affair. But seeing as I am not directly involved in the situation (gee, duh), I tend to gravitate more towards the roles of the women in this situation. And this, I found, is the root of my animosity towards Angelina Jolie and what she now stands for, for me. A friend of mine said, it wasn't her fault, the guy strayed, and the wife should be angrier at him for straying. But Angelina is a woman and so I expected her to have a certain amount of sensitivity and respect for her fellow woman. I am not saying that all women act, think, feel, or are the same. Not at all, but coming from the same gender should at least assure the person of some kind of affinity and fraternity. I am reluctant to say sisterhood but that is the best word I can think of at the moment. Regardless of whether or not they knew each other, the fact that they were both women should have been a consideration in the affair. It's like being betrayed by a sister- someone who shares the same gender history, stereotypes, hormones, etc. And because loyalty is so important to me, this kind of betrayal is unforgivable. So, as an outsider on the situation, Angelina Jolie does not stand for humanitarianism for me, she is not primarily an advocate for children (although her work is admirable). She is a poacher for me first and foremost, without respect or consideration for other women in committed relationships.

I don't think I explained this as clearly as I wanted to. Anyway, in the end, who cares about what I think about this matter, right? I just had to get it off my chest, finally. Just my two cents.

10 comments:

yanka said...

I'm speaking in generalities here. I know there are exceptions.
But I've observed something about people's attitude to cheating.

For those who think it's okay to cheat,they think it's okay until it's done to them.

For those who think it's not okay to cheat, they think it's not okay until they themselves feel like cheating.

vicki said...

Food for thought...

dreamwalker said...

Where'd this come from, Vicki???

"For those who think it's not okay to cheat, they think it's not okay until they themselves feel like cheating." - Never thought about this before. Interesting.

vicki said...

Hehe Numi. Just something simmering in my mind for a while. Thought I'd write it down and get it over and done with.

Mai da Paypay said...

actually, vicks. so true. some women are just so selfish, they don't give a crappy pwet about consequences. but must say angelina is hot. but still thumbs down to brad for choosing hotness over (supposedly) life-long commitment. how shallow

karla said...

hello vicki, i got your blog from a comment you left on earl's blog! hee hee! this is kinda off-topic but i just nibbled my last nibble off of your awesome chili choco cupcakes. adik!

ps., i belong to team jolie by the way... ganda ng tattoos niya e. haha.

Ree said...

I remember having a spirited discussion with you about this last time I visited...Back then I didn't know for sure that Angelina was actively pursuing Brad...so I left most of the fault with him for falling prey to her sexiness. I knew a girl in college like her that just exuded this natural sexiness and had guys just falling over themselves over her..and she wasn't even trying. (we all hated her...lol!)

Now that we know she targeted him and wanted to break up the marriage, that's another story.

They both suck. But I guess so did Jen and Brad's marriage if he was so easily swayed to stray. One positive thing is that it seems to have changed both Brad and Angelina. I like to think that motherhood has changed her for the better.

vicki said...

Hey Karla, glad you like the sweets! And I love tats too but...I just can't be for her. hehe.

Ree, see, this topic HAS been simmering in my mind for a while. I believe motherhood can change people. It has changed me after all. But she already had kids before Brad so...I don't know. I guess the kind of betrayal is just something I have a hard time accepting. I'm not trying to be self-righteous here. I definitely don't expect people to think like me or necessarily believe what I am saying. It's all personal opinion.

**meg** said...

This is weird. I don't like her for what she did, yet somehow, the whole world is eating it all up - the motherhood, being Brad's wife, being this supposed advocate for the children. I think this is the same case with Billy Bob Thornton (He so left the former Mrs. Thornton for Angelina!). Yet, the media still loves her.
In the olden times, we'd stitch a huge A on her dress.
Is it possible that society sees poaching as normal now?

vicki said...

Possible Meg, possible. Sad.