Monday, July 21, 2008


I was inspired by a short post in a friend's blog. In the 3 short paragraphs in the post you could really feel the love from the writer to the object of affection. This sounds cheesy, I know, but it also made think about the power and beauty of love in itself. And life and reality. I remember when I was 11. I remember writing in my diary trying to conjure the perfect man. The one who would one day sweep me off my feet and envelop me in a cloud of love.
Below were my favorite quotes about love from a movie. They're from 'Meet Joe Black'. I liked the movie but honestly 90% of that like is encapsulated in the following quotes:

"I want you to get swept away. I want you to levitate...Sing with rapture and dance like a dervish. Be deliriously happy, or atleast leave yourself open to be."
"Love is passion, obsession, someone you can't live without. If you don't start with that, what are you going to end up with? Fall head over heels. I say find someone you can love like crazy and who'll love you the same way back. And how do you find him? Forget your head and listen to your heart. I'm not hearing any heart. Run the risk, if you get hurt, you'll come back. Because, the truth is there is no sense living your life without this. To make the journey and not fall deeply in love - well, you haven't lived a life at all. You have to try. Because if you haven't tried, you haven't lived. "

I'm much older now and the pictures in my head have somewhat faded, their corners rather frayed. I used to believe that love was just like this. All like this. And that anything less was, well, just that....less. I think differently now. I know now that love like this does exist but it is never without it's pains, that it cannot be as great and powerful and sweet without these pains. How could one appreciate the beauty without even a glimpse of the ugly? That doesn't mean that one should settle. I guess what I am saying is I've learned to see the beauty in imperfection and the value of the head and the heart, and to just go on the journey and to not try so hard. It's like a quote from 'under the Tuscan Sun':

when I was a little girl,
I used to spend hours
looking for ladybugs.
Finally, I'd just give up
and fall asleep in the grass.
When I woke up,
they were crawling all over me."

I'd like to believe I am holding my ladybugs.


Avril said...

I'm the eternal romantic and I have to agree with the first quote. Being in love should be intoxicating and dizzying like jumping off a great height. Yes, when you land, it may hurt, but so what if you were able to experience the thrill of the fall? Cry a few tears, climb back up and feel the exhilaration again as you curl your toes around the ledge and before to jump.

Loving someone is quieter, it's safer, it's a decision and it should definitely be there in a relationship, but without the frenzy of being in love, what makes it different? What makes it worth risking a broken heart for?

yanka said...

I love the way you wrote: "I used to believe that love was just like this. All like this."

I like the way it sounds in my head when I read it.

dreamwalker said...

I think that knowing that the other person feels exactly the same way makes the risk worth it. Knowing that the other person is just as vulnerable as you are gives you the courage to give the relationship your all.